It's the Little Things

I believe nowadays that people often take fore-granted the "little things" in life. They think about the massive big things that will happen to them, such as: finishing high school, going on to get a job, meeting someone who they will spend the rest of their life with...but forget about the little things that should matter.

I think everyone to an extent takes things fore-granted even when they say they won't. Whether that be their relationships with others or just the genuine everyday things that make them happy. Even I am guilty of saying that I will value every little part of life to the fullest but often forget.

I often focus on what everyone else thinks is important. I look around at others my own age and realise how different my life is from a lot of theirs. I see people settling down with people they have known for 1 or 2 years at a time and getting engaged and married...I see those younger than me going on and having children thinking it is the right choice in life. I then look at my life and think how much of a different view I have...I've been in several relationships since the age of 16 and at the time I've always thought that person was the one for me, the person I was destined to spend the rest of my life with. I've always thought I was madly in love and then ended up majorly heartbroken when things have gone wrong. I could never see myself settling down at a young age and having children young. I guess in some ways I still live in the mindset of a child where I think that everything should work out perfectly but as I have learned not everything in life does.

Heartbreak, losing people, losing things they are all part of life...just like happiness and love are too. I often question whether I actually know what love is. People say that if you have to ask that then you are not in love but personally I do not believe that. I believe that love is too complicated to even start to explain. You know you are in love, yes, but what is love? Love has so many different definitions it has become something we use as a "casual" term. Instead of saying "I love you" and meaning it we have often began to get confused between lust/liking someone and love.

Change is difficult...relationships are difficult. They are amazing in their own respect but they are hard too. You make sacrifices and change things for the other person because you want them to be happy...relationships should be a two way thing though where both parties should be even within the relationship, they should both make the same (if not a similar) amount of effort.

Life is difficult...but no one ever said this road was going to be easy. One of my favourite quotes is out of the film Rocky and describes how I feel about life perfectly:

" The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty place... and I don´t care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently, if you let it. You, me or nobody, is gonna hit as hard as life. But ain't about how hard you hit... It's about how hard you can get hit, and keep moving forward... how much you can take, and keep moving forward. That´s how winning is done. Now, if you know what you worth, go out and get what you worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hits. And not pointing fingers saying: You ain´t what you wanna be because of him or her or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain´t you! You´re better than that.